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When we are engaged with someone in a relationship, it’s such a fairy tale thing, romance is the most beautiful moment in anyone’s life, where you dream or fantasize about feelings. You absorb so much love from another person, which makes you feel flourishing and energetic. No one in this world can ever imagine that the person whom they love so much, one day will not even exist in their life, and they will be alone. So when this happens, most people undergo sleep disturbance, negative thoughts, concentration issues, physical restless etc.
Because no one has ever planned about this day, what will happen to us if our BF/GF goes out of our lives, so probably no one is ever ready for such situations, and when someone goes away from our life with the intention of not coming back ever again, no matter how many close friends you have, one has to go through this suffering all alone.
After separation, you will get all kinds of negative thoughts, that
Am I not important to anyone?
Nobody loves me......
I am worthless.....
Why does this happen to me again and again?
Now I will never be with someone ever again...
So while going down such an anguishing emotional state, we often make some blunders to deal with this stress, like doing some sort of things, where we intend to engage ourselves to deviate our mind but land up in much more troublesome situations. Here we will look into those mistakes, which you are not supposed to do:-
Don’t tell Everyone - Well, as soon as the split happens, as one is heartbroken, in the process of gaining sympathy from the people, the very first thing which people do is to change their status of relationship on Instagram and Facebook, place single or not in a relationship in it, then after that your close friends give you condolence which gives you little comfort, but then people who are from far and wide who don't know you or your Ex, also shows solace on your grief, with this your sadness starts to increase more.
So cut all these things, it will just add some complications. If you are thinking about blocking or unfriending your partner on Instagram and Facebook, then there is no issue, you can go for it. Later, you can again connect with them on social media, there is no problem in blocking them for the time being.
Don’t act like a Detective - As soon as you change your status, now you are curious about your ex life, you also try to scrutinize the status of your ex, as soon as you saw their social media profile, where your Ex put so many pictures, there you realize that your partner is very happy without you, and also got a new partner. Then you start stalking your Ex’s new partners, behaving like a detective, you start asking every common friend, after taking all the information about their new partner, you start comparing their new partner with yourself, which lowers your self-esteem. The best solution is to avoid common friends during this period, so that neither you update every little thing with them, nor they give you updates.
Don’t feel jealous –Randomly going through other's social media profile, you suddenly realize, and say “wow, what a beautiful couple”? and suddenly land up stressing yourself again. Make yourself understand that on Social Media most youngsters share their moments where they are happy, now how happy are they? You don't have any idea about their real happiness but as soon as you see others happy with their partners, you feel that everyone is happy in the world, I am just sad.
Don’t indulge in Cigarettes or Alcohol-To overcome this pain, youngsters often get addicted to alcohol or cigarettes, and get into another kind of intoxication, youngsters start smoking cigarettes in case of stress, and the nicotine in the cigarette gives them instant relief. But these substances like cigarettes and alcohol can only give you a rest for a while, that's all, do not resort to them.
Don’t try to boost your EGO – After a breakup, all your friends become your advisor, the very first piece of advice which you get is that there is no shortage of people in this world, find someone better. As soon as you attend this information, you download all the dating apps on the phone and start finding out a new partner. In such a situation, youngsters often get tempted to move on to another relationship, but hang on for a while, take some time, do not get into a new relationship just to boost your ego.
Don’t pretend everything is FINE - Some youngsters pretend to be overjoyed to hide their discomfort after a breakup, and whenever someone talks to them about the breakup, they say everything is fine or ok, Don’t suppress your emotions. Open your heart with a close friend and share your pain or seek the help of a professional if needed.
During this time, engage yourself in some innovative ideas, do some productive work, help others, develop some new skills, and trust in yourself that an adorable person is waiting for the right time to enter your life who will fill the colour of love in your life.